Was having a chat about inter staff dating the other night with some of the staff, and there are definitely pro’s and con’s to dipping in the honey pot so to speak.
One of the girlies that works for us said it was amazing that inter work relations were allowed in Australia. In some countries its ABSOLUTELY forbidden to date a person you work with due to the fallout of a fallen relationship. She was telling us in once instance a guy one of her co-workers was dating started hitting on all the other waitresses, when one of them told her about it. She hated the girl for being honest and used to turn all the new staff against her. Another instance two staff members were dating and “disappeared” for over an hour and were getting in on in a staff bathroom.
The funniest story though was hers, she said she dated a “regular” from the restaurant she was working at and found out he was cheating on her when he brought another date to that same restaurant! She said she was so humiliated that he did that so she dumped a pail of kitchen sludge over his head in a fit of rage. She ended up getting fired, but said it was totally worth it. Good on her, gotta love a crazy bird.
Maybe its different here on the Gold Coast since people come and go so frequently it’s not as if you really have to worry about them ruining your life for longer then the time their visiting here.
Not only that the relationships that have been formed that I know of were either booty calls, or actual relationships and I know of 2 couples that have been together for over 7 yrs. One’s married and one’s engaged…
So I guess some of the benefits of dating someone you work with, is that if you’re working 60-70hrs a week it’s nice to be able to see someone regularly without having to schedule a date in. The beauty of it is that you can both be hot, smelly, and tired from a full day of work, then just go for a drink or two after work and then go about canoodling. IF you were dating someone outside of work you might only get to see them once or twice a week, you’d be tired (they’d get tired of hearing how tired you were) and you’d have to go home, shower, get ready, and then figure out something bedazzling to chat about.
Another benefit is maybe a sneaky snog during a lull, or having a sweetheart to look forward to seeing each day, and being able to work together as a team. I know some of the girls I dated back in the day were pretty chill and I knew if they worked in a restaurant they were the sort of girl that knows how to handle stress and always have a good attitude.
The downside to dating someone from work… wellllllll…..
The con’s are usually just that it’s shite if it goes sour, because then you have to see them all the time. OR if someone gets with you, then another staff member sometimes that causes conflict. But overall as long as everyone’s mature about it, I don’t really think there’s a problem.
It’s like with anything, you want to find a partner with
similarites, cos when you have stuff in common it’s just easier to get on over the long haul. But you also have to be able to call a fling a fling, and a “thing” a “thing”.
Wise Sage Says: ”Whether or not dating someone you work with is good or bad, it’s like the old saying goes “Couples that play together, stay together”.
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